Do you ever find that you bottle things up to save time of explaining to others? Do you bottle them up to stop yourself experiencing that event again? Or do you do it because you put others before yourself? If you do, do not worry, you are not alone! As a natural worrier, I was often like this; I was worried what people would say, whether they would judge me because of it. I always bottle things up as a natural way of carrying on, but at some point, that bottle will overflow and normally end in a breakdown or constant negative thinking. Bottling things up may be a good way of dealing with the situation at the time but in the long term it causes more harm than good. It is vitally important to speak up and to tell someone how you are feeling. Not only does this enable the weight on your shoulders to lift, and for you to feel less anxious about having to pretend you are okay. The side effects of putting the face on every day is that you not only become distanced from reality, you also put harm on your body. It is said that it can affect your blood pressure, self-esteem, and memory, making you possibly more anxious, depressed, and aggressive without the intentional meaning.
I have been there and done this, it does not lead to many positive outcomes. When I chose to speak to a friend I really trusted, I realised she had been through a similar situation. We both discussed how we felt and how it affected us. She gave me good advice and gave me tips on how to deal with anxiety. It also gave me a lifeline, that I could speak to her whenever I felt anxious or self-conscious to let what I have been bottling up out. Ever since then, I’ve always found it better to speak up and let other people help you because you never realise how much help they can give you, even when you feel like you’ve tried everything to be ‘normal’. I know that everything probably seems like a blur when you bottle things up, but I have found it helpful and relieving when speaking up. I have physically felt so much better for doing so and it has made my mental health improve.
So, if anything helpful is to come out of my article, I would recommend that you speak up to someone if you feel unhappy or feel like you are bottling too much up. Please do not ignore your feelings or disregard your mental health because it is important to take care of yourself before it affects you too much, both mentally and physically.