Q: How do you know if a relationship with someone is toxic and bad for your mental health?
A: This is difficult to answer because it isn’t always something that you are able to spot. I think noticing changes in your mood and emotional wellbeing is key and understanding when these came about and what time of the day. Is it a reoccurring theme that your emotional wellbeing is affected after seeing this person, or before perhaps? How exactly is it that you are feeling? Does this person make you feel anxious? Depressed? Or do they encourage you to act in a way which is unhealthy for your mental health.
It’s sometimes difficult for us to recognise a decline in our mental health, so talking to others about it may help. Although we may not properly recognise that the person is bad for us, we may have an inclination. Others will be able to spot signs and changes in behaviours that we can’t ourselves. So reach out to your friends and relatives and have a chat with them, it doesn’t need to be based on ‘is my mental health affected negatively by this person’ it can be something as simple as ‘what do you think of…’ or ‘have I changed recently?’.
Good luck with this! I think we as human beings always have a slight whisper of when something isn’t quite right, and if we don’t, someone else will.