Hey guys! I hope you’ve had a wonderful summer. There were so many pride events across the UK in August, in addition to events such as DragWorld in London. I really hope you had a fabulous time if you did go to any! September is of course back to school/uni time. Often, this time of year, is one surrounded by mixed feelings: people are either very excited or feeling very alone and confused. This month, I want to, as always, help you to feel comfortable with yourself going into the new year. Here’s some myth-busting Q&A for you!
My friends are making jokes about me being gay. I don’t feel comfortable at school with them. What do you suggest?
The first thing I’d say is that they are clearly not your friends if they feel okay with treating you like this. It may feel hard to shun them if they have been there for you in the past, or you’ve had fun together, but no good friend will make fun of you and mean it.
I know it’s hard, but I would sit them down and tell them you don’t feel okay with being mocked for who you are. If you don’t feel comfortable face-to-face, send them a message to explain how you feel. Remember, you have no right to be bullied for any part of you, and that includes your sexuality. If it comes to it, you are well within your rights to speak to a support worker in your school, they can definitely help you when it comes to this kind of thing. They can speak to the student and try to put an end to the bullying if it really does get that far.
I just came out to my parents – I wish I had done it sooner!
That’s wonderful! I can understand completely that it was hard to come out – it takes a lot of courage. Many people, just like you, often feel that coming out to their parents was nowhere near as monumentally difficult as they initially thought. Parents are very often just wanting their children to be happy. If happiness for you means that you’re happy with your partner, then that’s beautiful.
As always, if you have any questions, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org; otherwise I hope back to school is wonderful for you!