We all get to that point where we decide that this is it. Today, tomorrow, next week, or even next school year, is when I change all my bad habits and get my life together. You might write everything down in a list of things you want to change, display it or tuck it away for later but, more often than not, it seems we don’t always achieve everything we set out to.
This might be because sometimes the goals we set ourselves tend to be unreasonable, as they don’t always take into account our flaws and limitations.
So, it’s not unusual that many people don’t achieve these goals. I, myself am guilty of this. But, sometimes just the ritual of writing something down to better understand an issue can be helpful because, it creates a visual representation of a problem, or a change you want to implement in your life, which until then has been an abstract burden weighing down your brain.
I’m sure I could find many such lists tucked in boxes or drawers around my own room and often the goals haven’t changed. More recently, I’ve started creating
lists of what I want to do after uni, goals for self-improvement, books I want to read, films I want to watch, things I want to learn about and so on. I do this not because I know that I’m going to be able to achieve all these things but, because I know I might not.
Now, that might sound a bit counterintuitive but, I believe it’s important to have this adversity in our lives and embrace these challenges. Sometimes by creating these lists you might realise that the issue you think you’re confronting isn’t actually the problem, but instead you find yourself projecting your emotions onto something else. For example, creating lists on life after uni helped me to manage my anxiety about the present and uncertainty about what comes next and, during some of the more stressful periods, it reminded me that I won’t always feel like this.
Even though it might sound a bit obsessive, this is just one of the many coping mechanisms I use to manage my stress and anxiety, and for me, it helps.