Hey guys! Hope you’ve had a good month. I am aware it’s been super stressful, but the stress will be over by the end of this month! Then you’ve got a super long break to relax and unwind. My friend Leanne’s article on the next page should give you some inspiration for places to visit this summer, it’s such wonderful news that Suffolk has a place for us to celebrate who we are. For now, here’s some more questions to be addressed – if you’ve got any suggestions, as always, email [email protected]
Aren’t you going to change your mind?
No. Even if being bisexual/gay/anything else was a choice (which it isn’t) it’s not something that we can simply ‘change our minds’ over. I mean, even being asked this question implies that it’s the deviant lifestyle, that it’s not ‘normal’. That’s simply not the case! I’m super happy being bisexual, and why wouldn’t I be? The thing about being bisexual is that you don’t really give conscious thought to your sexuality when you’re on the dating scene, you simply find someone attractive and build something special together. Gender is the least of my worries!
You had a really bad breakup with that girl – bet you’re going to turn gay.
Of course this question is probably asked more to straight people – but it’s still not healthy. The nature of sexuality means that you don’t just ‘turn gay’ after a life event. You might come away from the dating scene for a while and relish being single, but your sexuality probably won’t change! You certainly won’t be attracted to the person you broke up with, but you probably will keep being attracted to either the same gender, opposite gender, or both!
But you’ve got a girlfriend, so how does that work? You can’t be bi if you’ve got a heterosexual relationship going?
I’ve been asked this a lot this month – and the answer is simply that I am definitely still bisexual! My relationship is with a gal, and I’m going to be honest I haven’t really considered my sexuality at all during the relationship. As we all know and shout proudly, love is love no matter who is involved, and I am proud to be bisexual!
Thank you for reading this month’s edition, any questions please drop me an email!