Anyone who has been bullied or is being bullied knows the fear of people finding out, that if a teacher, parent or even a friend find out about it that they will be viewed as lesser, that somehow what they are made to feel will become real. In the back of their minds they know that if they say something, anything that it may stop it, but the fear of it becoming worse has paralyzed them from speaking up and speaking out.
I can remember that exact feeling, and how it emphasised the worthlessness I was feeling. How I desperately wanted to shout out. But I felt no-one would hear me let alone listen.
I was lost, I look back now and see it was just a veil that had been pulled over my eyes and I see that when I did reach out things improved for me. Just opening up helps, you feel a wave of relief come over you, that veil is lifted and you see you aren’t alone, and that people will help you if you ask them to…
It may seem scary to tell someone but, telling will not only get you help, it will make you feel less afraid. If you are being physically bullied and are in danger you must speak with a trusted adult immediately. And if you can’t go to your parents, seek out a trusted teacher, guidance counsellor or school psychologist.
If you’ve told a grown-up before and they haven’t done anything about it, tell someone else.
Tell them exactly what happened, who did the bullying, where and when it happened, how long it’s been happening to you, and how it’s making you feel. When you tell your teacher, guidance counsellor or school psychologist, ask them what they will do to help stop the bullying. It is their job to help keep you safe. Most adults really care about bullying and will do everything they can to help you. Keep telling until someone does help you!
If all else fails, people here at Student Life know the correct path that needs to be taken, so let us know.