Q: My depression is really preventing me getting any work done for school as I have no motivation whatsoever and I’m fearful my grades will drop, and I won’t be able to do anything about it. How do I get my motivation back?
A: The loss of motivation is one of the most difficult things I have experienced whilst trying to meet deadlines at university. You’re not alone! The feeling of knowing you have work to do but just not being able to. I feel like this feeling isn’t very well understood until you’ve been there and experienced it yourself. I believe getting your motivation back is a different journey for everyone but here’s a few things that helped me;
Rewards! Promise yourself a nice big juicy reward for completing some work – mine was a good ol’ gaming session with my pals.
Don’t set your goals too high, make them achievable.
Drink lots of water and keep well fed!
Take breaks, lots of them. It helped me break down the amount of time I had to concentrate on a specific thing.
Speak to your tutor or module leader about how you are feeling – tutorials with my personal tutor reassured me and allowed me to stop feeling so guilty.
Find a good balance between work and play. Do what’s best for you and try to slowly build this up.
Good luck. You got ‘dis. Just try and remember that this loss of motivation is something that you are experiencing now and that it will pass.
Q: What’s the best way to cope with social anxiety and feeling anxious in difficult situations that you can’t control?
A: I believe in knowing your coping strategies and having a plan in your head beforehand of how you can best implement them. A contingency plan as such. This could include speaking to the person that you are with about your anxiety so that they are there to ask for support if necessary, or if you are not with someone you can do the same but with someone who is a phone call away. Prepare yourself; if you know you are going into a situation where you feel you might struggle try writing down the pro’s and con’s of the situation, the likelihood of your anxieties occurring, and the impact this may have on you. Explore ways of managing ‘the worst’ and have a clear plan in mind, this should offer you some reassurance.
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