Social anxiety can come at different moments of our lives. Every interaction that we have with other people will help improve our social life, however, it can also affect us in one way or another.
Experiencing social anxiety is something that I went through in my first two years of uni. For me, the idea to stay around people was a necessity and when I had to stay alone my morale was down and I felt that I cannot do anything. Being surrounded by people all the time I started to feel suffocated. After explaining the way I was feeling to one of my friends he told me that we all need our time to spend alone. Being afraid of this is not wrong but trying every day to spend some time alone helped me to be more relaxed when I had to stay either around loads of people or by myself. It was hard for me to do this as for everything that I wanted to do I had the tendency to ask someone to join me, however, I got the hang of it and I feel I am on the right track.
Finding hobbies in moments like this is important as they keep me occupied and show me that I can do something, which for me, is worth it.
Starting to go to the gym on a regular basis helped my confidence in staying alone much more as I had my goal and the only way to do so was by working out. I still struggle sometimes to fill gaps when I spend time by myself or when I have to spend time with people that I am not comfortable with, but both of these are work in progress.
Now, I know the importance of having time alone to just relax or do some bits that will make me happy and appreciate this time and not spending it by overthinking.
Social anxiety is for me still a journey that I need to go through, but I feel how small changes are made and with every change, there are new opportunities in discovering our personality and what makes us happy.