Hey! I hope you’ve been keeping well this last month. The festive season is almost upon us, which means time to celebrate! However, it could well be a time of increased anxiety too. This month, I’m answering some of your questions surrounding staying safe and having fun this season.
I’m going to a Christmas party with friends, but there are people I won’t know there. I’m single and want to meet new people, but I’m worried about it. Any tips?
The main thing I’d say is to enjoy yourself! It can be nerve-racking to meet new people in a context like this, but above all else, it helps to try and be yourself and don’t feel pressured to impress. It’s by no means a guarantee, nor a goal, that you’ll find someone you really like. However, if the moment is right, and you’re acting like yourself, you may well find someone spontaneously.
Please, please be safe. Don’t go home with anyone you don’t know. Stay with friends, if something gets uncomfortable, they’ll be there to help you and keep you safe. Your bed for the night is in your house or a friend’s house, but wherever it is, it must’ve been prearranged before you go out!
Some of my family don’t accept me for who I am. I’m gay and I have a girlfriend, but some of my family won’t accept my sexuality. I’m spending Christmas with both my girlfriend and family, how should I handle this?
The two important things here are: stay safe and be yourself. You shouldn’t let your family stop you enjoying Christmas with your partner, but if you feel like it would benefit things, perhaps spend some time away from the family?
It can be really hard to handle a situation like this, but it’s really important to keep yourself safe. Remember, just because someone is family, you don’t owe them your time. If they don’t respect you, they don’t deserve your attention.
I hope these have helped you in some way, and that you have a wonderful festive season! Charlie, our new LGBT editor, will be taking your questions from January! It’s been wonderful to help you over the last 9 months, so it’s farewell but not goodbye!