Hey! I hope you’re enjoying the autumn, cosying up in the evenings and watching the leaves fall – I know I am! I put out an email to all of our writers this month to ask what they’d like to see featured – and they came through! Remember, if you have any other ideas, email [email protected]
‘How do you know you’re bisexual?’
As our writer said in their email, it isn’t something you can ‘prove’. You just know! In my case, one day, I just started to feel the same feelings for a boy that I had always felt for girls. It really isn’t that complicated, it’s just how we feel! In the past, people have asked me how I am bisexual when I have a girlfriend: that’s exactly the point of bisexuality!
To be bisexual means that you are attracted to both females and males. Whilst I am in a relationship with a girl right now, it doesn’t mean that I have become straight (or visa versa if I was dating a boy, I wouldn’t become gay). If we were to separate and I was looking for another partner, I’d still be attracted to both boys and girls.
‘People don’t understand how many categories there are in this community’ – anonymous
I totally agree. There are so many groups. Some people may fit your personal definition of a group, but they don’t have to identify as belonging to it. A person may fit your personal criteria of being transgender, but if they don’t see themselves that way and perhaps want to self-identify as something else, for example genderqueer or non-binary, then that’s okay.
Perhaps someone doesn’t want a label at all, and that’s okay.
The main thing here is that some people identify in different ways, and that’s their choice. People can form different communities without any need for outside approval. People’s choice to use a certain label also isn’t fixed or permanent. Someone can change how they identify, and it’s not for others to judge or speculate on.
If you’re looking for ways to meet people who identify the same as you, there are plenty of communities on social media, Twitter particularly!
I’ve really enjoyed taking questions from the floor this month. Please help this continue – email [email protected]!