I think to some extent it is recognised these days that being part of the LGBTQ+ community can be extremely tough, especially when it comes to being bullied. For whatever reason, it almost seems that people from this community are an easy target… I guess similar to that of people from an ethnic minority.
It still saddens me that being a little bit different to others can make you such an easy target. When I was in school and came out as being gay, I got badly bullied. It knocked my self-confidence, my self-worth, and my own perceptions of myself changed overnight. Was I really this disgusting person? Was I really this horrible human for not fancying the popular girls? I mean, if I was into women then surely I’d be into the most popular ones?
The ridiculous thing is, I got bullied for being gay, but I got bullied for not fancying the right people. How stupid is that. I can’t recall any of my straight friends being bullied for not fancying the right people? So why was it wrong of me to have my own opinions on who I found attractive or not?
There was this once incident that I will never forget; I was heading to the P.E changing rooms, and upon entering a large group of the girls noticed me and all ran off into the toilet cubicles commenting that ‘the lesbian is here and she’ll perv on you’. Walking into a full classroom/changing room can be daunting anyway when you know there are people in there that don’t like you, but being singled out like that is even worse.
Looking back now, part of me wants to thank the bullies… the way they treated me will always solidify that I will never make anyone feel like that. In the end they made me stronger as a person. Part of me feels sorry for them, what was happening in their lives to lead them to act that way with me?
I just wish I was asked, rather than bullied.
We are all individuals and are all entitled to be who we are. Be yourself, always. And don’t let bullies get you down.