So, this month is a big one. You’re back into the full swing of education and ready for the super long Autumn term. I hope you’re getting back into it comfortably, whether you’re staying where you were last year or moving on to somewhere new – college, university or work. If you are moving to somewhere new, you’ll be starting fresh with all new people surrounding you with lots of new friends to make. With those new friends may come the time to come out to people.
It can be difficult to come out, especially if it’s to new people in your life. Moving away can present a difficult ultimatum. You may feel comfortable coming out to your new friends (who may well end up becoming your uni family), but your family at home may be clueless about your sexuality. There can be a variety of reasons why you may not feel comfortable to come out at home – and moving to uni can often give you the room to find your feet and understand yourself.
Having said that, please don’t feel pressure to come out! There is no need to do things you aren’t comfortable with just because you’re in a new place. Whilst it is a new place with new people, and you want to feel yourself, there’s no need to put yourself too far out of your comfort zone.
By no means should you be embarrassed about your sexuality, but as Dan Howell (YouTube/social media celebrity) recently demonstrated, it’s okay to feel like you need more time in the closet. He explained in a recent video (I mentioned it in July’s issue), that he had spent a very long time in the closet as he had never felt comfortable with his sexuality. He hated the fact that he was gay because the time he was growing up was non inclusive and taught him that being gay was wrong. Only now has he managed to fight his demons and tell the world about his true self, but I’m really glad he now feels able to embrace himself!
I hope wherever you’re spending this year is a positive place. I have found that if someone is your true friend, they’ll always love you for who you are! Have a wonderful month!