Welcome to “Relationships”, by Rosie

This article is a regular feature that offers advice to students on aspects of family/friend/personal relationships. This month’s feature discusses sibling relationships and how to improve upon strained or distant sibling relationships.

by Carly Frances 4 years ago

Welcome to our newest, regular feature offering advice to students on aspects of family/friend/personal relationships. In the hot-seat is Rosie, a current 6th former at Kesgrave High School and a founder member of the Student Life steering group.

Hey there! I’m Rosie, and I’m really excited about bringing this new feature to Student Life! This new section will be focusing on relationships, from family relationships, to friendships and personal relationships. I feel like I’m saying relationships a lot here…Let’s cut to the chase.

Throughout my life, I have had a lot of experiences in this particular area. Some good, some bad, but all educational. I have learnt and grown as a result of all of them and I wanted to share some of my experiences with you guys. I’ve always been someone who is open about their experiences if I feel it benefits other people, and I enjoy helping people when they go through something similar to my own experiences.

So, to kick-start things, I want to talk to you guys a little about sibling relationships, particularly the renowned horror…of a younger sister. Maybe that’s a little bit harsh, but I’m sure many of you who have a younger sister, particularly those of you who are the older sister will agree.  You love your sister, she is your mini-sidekick and you’re a team…but she annoys the living daylights out of you.

It’s always been very tough for me as my sister, who is 15 months younger, and I have nothing in common. That may sound like an exaggeration, but if you take blonde hair and gender out of the equation, we’ve got nothing. Personality-wise, hobby-wise, everything-wise. This can make it very difficult to get along because there is nothing we can do that we will both enjoy together.

Yet I was determined to try and find something that we both enjoyed that we could do together and get along with. As we have grown up, we have got more distant in terms of our personal interests, but our bedrooms are on either side of the same wall, which means there is always that through-wall conversation of winding each other up and tapping on the walls when the other one of us is trying to sleep. Living in the same house, 7 days a week, there was no escaping each other.

So, I tried to cast my mind back to when we were kiddie-winkies, when we played together much more. Now, I have always loved me some gaming. That’s one thing that often set me and my sister apart. I still have my old DS Lite, my PC games, my PS2 and PS3, and treasure them, whereas my sister has broken about 3 DS’s in her lifetime and could never get the hang of a PS controller. Yet I remembered how much she loved her DS as a kid; she was just a bit of a clutz!

I suggested she get a second-hand DS, which she did…in the same colour as mine *grrrr* but I let that one slide. So, we sat down and tried it out; Mario Kart tournaments, Nintendogs Bark Mode where we just offloaded the junk our Shih Tzu’s picked up on their walks on each other…and we had fun. We had laughs, and we actually got along. By being kids again, we had some really good fun.

Maybe that’s the key to it; go back to a time when you did get along. Instead of trying to change who you are now to complement each other, try and go back to some common ground you used to have. Chances are, it will work, because I like to think that our inner-kid is still there inside each of us, and with kidness (yes, I just made that word up) comes the ability to remove any judgements and differences against one another, and just have fun and love one another.