Talking about mental health with anyone can be daunting enough, but how do you approach that subject with someone you are dating or are in a relationship with?
When even is the right time to do that? Questions I have struggled answering in the past and ones which I don’t think have a ‘one rule for all’ approach. Since struggling with Anxiety, I have been in a couple of long-term relationships where I have had good mental health and also bad mental health and my experiences have differed.
I have been in a relationship where my boyfriend ‘gets it’ and one where it’s taken a bit longer to understand the day to day. Both experiences have shaped the way I view mental health & relationships and have influenced how I approach the subject.
In my current relationship, I have had to introduce anxiety and really take care not only to understand how a relationship impacts my anxiety, but also take time to learn how my anxiety can impact the person I’m in relationship with. It’s been difficult, I can’t lie and it has tested us beyond limits, but if you are able to put in the time, it is worth it.
I used to send articles about anxiety to my boyfriend to help him understand how I can sometimes feel, as well as sending him articles to read about how he might be able to support me. Communication is key. If you can get to a place where you can both openly talk about how you feel, then that’s a step in the right direction.